Medically Reviewed by Dr. K on 17 March 2021
The 3 C's Of Addiction Recovery
It's never easy to see a loved one struggling with a disease, but according to Katia S. Stoletniy, MD, addiction psychiatrist at Loma Linda University Behavioral Medicine Center, the three C's in addiction therapy will help you support your loved one while still maintaining your own emotional boundaries.
“I didn’t cause it."
One of the most significant points to note about addiction is that your loved one's drug habits were not caused by you.
“You must realize that you did not trigger it," Stoletniy notes, even though your loved one places responsibility on you. “Knowing what you can and can't control is the first step toward establishing good limits and supporting your loved one in their path to recovery.”
“I can’t cure it."
Addiction is a chronic condition, similar to diabetes or hypertension, that necessitates medical intervention. According to Stoletniy, managing addiction necessitates both physical and emotional lifestyle adjustments. Medical control of withdrawal symptoms, cognitive behavioral counseling, and residential recovery are also potential therapeutic strategies. It can also consist of a mixture of therapies.
“That doesn't suggest you'll abandon them. It doesn't imply you'll let them in or allow them,” Stoletniy explains. “It does offer you a different viewpoint on the options your loved one has.”
“I can’t control it."
Addiction is a biological condition that alters the physiology of the brain. You can feel compelled to try to influence your loved one's behavior, but let go of the desire would enable you to participate more productively and concentrate your attention on what you can influence, according to Stoletniy.
When you help your loved one on their journey to healing, you can teach yourself about addiction and take control of yourself.
“You will be able to encourage them and make the correct decision when your loved one is willing to ask for help,” Stoletniy notes.